Actress and filmmaker Ruth Kadiri has advanced a connection between bid weddings and mental health matters.
According to her, elaborate weddings are not just about economics but other crucial issues.
The filmmaker, who is seven years old in marriage, notes in a video she shared on IG that many couples fail to realise that a big wedding brings mental, spiritual and financial pressure that follows them into the marriage.
She said, “I do think that big weddings put pressure on couples; it puts pressure on the marriage itself. Big weddings put pressure on people, and they don’t seem to have realised that. They don’t seem to have realised that because I’m not just talking about spirituality or anything; I’m talking about mental health.
“Do you know that people have a phobia, a fear? People naturally fear what marriage is. But they could date, they will date this girl, love her, be with her every day, every day, every day and then after this whole damn ceremony, have you asked yourself what changed? Married, that wedding is part of what changed.”
The actress, who has been married for seven years, said she speaks from experience.
Kadiri advised intending couples to keep it simple. For traditional rites, she suggested inviting a few family members to sit in the parlour and pay the bride price. For the white wedding, she proposed a 30-guest court ceremony, a pastor’s prayer, and then going home.
“So I do want to encourage people, young people, go to your father’s house, your mother, your father, your uncle, two, two people carry from inside, mother and father, two people, pay the bride price, go home. Want to do wedding, carry yourself, invite 30 people, go to court, from court come back home, call pastor, let him pray, drink wine and sleep. E go be like say you do birthday party”.
